Challenge: Write about 5 ways to win your heart
This wasn’t the easiest for me because though I write romance I haven’t thought about it in a long time outside of from the context of my characters. My realist outlook is a result of the school of hard knocks and probably makes me more bitter and more of a romantic all at the same time than it should.
First way, make me laugh. I like to laugh and I do alot. In fact, it’s an unfortunate nervous tic that rears it’s ugly head at the worst times sometimes. When it’s appropriate, it’s not hard to make me smile and I feel better when I’m smiling and I’ve been told my smile is one of my assets.
Second way, be smart. I’d like to say I’m smart and I know I’m not dumb but I’m old enough and have met enough people to know smart is not the right adjective for me. But I’ve had the pleasure of meeting some incredibly smart people. Often they are self absorbed, quite condescending, a-holes. But I have met a few that exist in that transcendental reality of truly wanting to share knowledge and being excited about my interest in knowledge while also knowing they can lap me mentally in their sleep. My self destructive nature has led me to give more credit to the a-hole smart types as if getting them to accept me might elevate me to their level. I should have spent more time with others. Oh well.
Third way, be a good kisser. I didn’t realize how rare a trait this was until I finally broke out of my awkward phase, sometime in my 30s (lol, kidding, kinda). Kissing is an art form that doesn’t get enough credit. It’s also a reoccurring theme in all of the romance novels I read and so I’m not the only one with this complaint. Anyway, good kissers are good things.
Fourth way, cavemen are underrated. I’ve mentioned this in a few of my stories and I’m not an Alpha male girl. Honestly if I ended up with a man like that we’d end up on the evening news and I’m not sure who would be the one leaving in cuffs. That said someone who is decisive, ambitious, can take care of me, yes in that old fashion way, this is a man I would find myself thinking about.
Fifth way, be a good man. I saw a post describing the difference between a good man and a nice man and never has anything resonated more with me. The main take away is that a good man acts without volition while a nice man, even in his purest efforts, is acting with intention to gain the sympathetic eye (awe isn’t he nice) or manipulate the situation through the niceness. Good men, they’re hard to find.
I’ve stated this before, relationships are hella hard. None of them are completely toxin free and many of them are very noxious and need constant cleaning. The most egregious you have to walk away from – those that damage physically and mentally. But the others? Well they’re going to be f’ing hard. That doesn’t mean give up on them. It means we’re human things get sticky and ugly when you are human. It means don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.
It means go easy.